Saturday, May 26, 2012

Our angel's due date

Today, May 26, is the due date of our angel baby. I remember that dreadful day of November 2nd when we couldn't find the heartbeat and my heart broke into a million pieces. I remember all the tears. Today I sit, 7 months pregnant with my rainbow of hope still crying over the loss of my angel and missing him/her terribly.

I thought that because I am pregnant again and all is going well that I will not feel this way. But here I sit, sad, wondering what would have happened if angel was still in my belly thriving. I will always love you sweet angel and I will forever be grateful and thankful to have carried you for those few weeks.

A coworker of mine asked me why I was such a happy pregnant woman and why I never complained. I had to think about it for a second, I do complain (mostly just to my husband), I do have aches, pain,  discomfort, mood swings, and I am tired all the time. Ultimately I realized that pregnancy after a loss is a different kind of ball game. Everyday I feel blessed for my growing baby. Yes I have heartburn and I am aching, yes I am tired and uncomfortable, and yes I have a crazy active toddler and life. But all those things will not take away from the joy I feel for carrying this rainbow baby, all they really represent to me is a reminder that I have a growing and healthy baby in my belly.

I guess the answer to my coworker's question is that I don't complain about my pregnancy because I have lost my innocent naivete about pregnancy (and I am so jealous of woman who still have that). I am not expecting a baby (because it implies a guaranteed happy ending) but I am simply hoping for a baby to take home come August. I fear that if I complain It will take away from all the joy I am feeling every step of the way and that's all I ever want to remember about this pregnancy.

So bring on the aches and pain, they will not hold me down. It's not all rainbows and unicorns but that's all I ever want to remember. I think what my angel baby taught me was how to love more fiercely than I ever imagined and how to be grateful for life's little blessings. Thank you sweet angel of mine. I will never forget you and will love you forever and always.

I know that I am truly blessed to have one living healthy child and another healthy little one on the way. So today I count my blessings:

Blessing number 1 - the boy who made me mom
Blessing number 2 - the boy who restored my hope
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift"

4 comments:

  1. You are so strong! God bless your sweet angel baby in heaven, your precious toddler, and your rainbow baby growing stronger and stronger in your womb every day!

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  2. Awww, that was so beautiful. I can't wait to see your little one.

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